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Weekend Edition / 5

This post could be subtitled, “What the bleep happened to August?” All of a sudden, it’s here – my favorite month, the prelude to my favorite season, chilly morning and evening temperatures, golden afternoon sunlight edging steely-grey clouds. Love, love, love.

Obviously, I haven’t blogged much lately. Here’s what happened.

At the very end of July I was offered a new position at work – a position I would be helping to create. Accepting was easy, but getting the job up and running has been anything but. It’s been challenging, engaging, and alternately frustrating and rewarding – very worthwhile and overall a great opportunity. My new boss is extremely supportive and has helped me believe that I can do this, which makes it easier to just go ahead and do it even when it’s difficult.

But focusing on this new role has really left me very little energy or time to do anything else. I’m just tired all the time, and am learning how to balance it all and starting to peek my head above water now.

Another thing that happened this summer is someone very close to me told me I write too much about my feelings, and after getting my feelings really hurt by that statement … I realized it was true and that I need to settle down. Not every random experience in life is blog-worthy. Billions of people do a lot of the same things I do each day without feeling the need to shout to the internet, “I LEARNED! I’M A GROWN-UP!” They just … do it. So I’m trying to figure out how to blog without being ridiculous.

Anyway, it’s the weekend! Here are some links I enjoyed this week …

This rainy beach wedding – amazing.

My friend Marjorie talks about cherishing every stage of life.

Scrumptious-looking loaded hummus recipe – I can’t wait to try this!

What a lovely reflection on beauty that lasts and grows through the years.

My disengagement from church was gradual and not for exactly the same reasons as Elisabeth’s, but her piece on returning to church and getting married in a church really touched me.

I also just finished listening to the book Outliers: The Story of Success, by Malcolm Gladwell – my boss loaned me his audio copy and it was an interesting look at the real ingredients we may not recognize behind great success stories. It got me thinking about new ways to approach challenges, which is important right now. (Side note – I really liked listening to a book during my commute instead of the radio!)

After finishing Outliers, I asked my boss what he’d recommend next: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick Lencioni.

And with that, we are off on an adventure with Matt’s family in New Hampshire. What are you looking forward to this weekend?

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4 thoughts on “Weekend Edition / 5”

  1. I actually quite disagree with that person! I have always been fascinated by your blog because of your open, honest posts. H/she is right that millions of people do the same sort of things you do–have jobs, date, vacation, try to eat better, exercise, fall in love, clean, pay off cars, etc., BUT I honestly feel you have a really unusual ability to take a chaotic experience with conflicting emotions (bumps in a relationship, dealing with exes, depressing jobs) and make it intelligible and meaningful.

    I really think it’s rare in the blogging world to blog as you do. A lot of times people write what feels like filtered and false posts. I follow your blog because it’s beautiful and I often think, “Hey, that’s how I feel!” It feels authentic, relatable, what a blog should be. So I hope you don’t entirely stop writing about your feelings.

    And I didn’t know you well in college, I’m just a random reader, so I’m not just saying this because I have to. :)

    1. Thank you so much for saying that, Katie! Especially since you don’t have to :) I’m glad that it hasn’t seemed ridiculous to everyone … he had a point, a good one that needed considering … but it’s also good to know that “omg ridiculous” is not an across the board reaction to the stuff I have been writing and that someone can relate. Thanks for reading, it truly means a lot to me.

  2. I may not have any right to be, but I’m PISSED for you that a person who cares about you told you you blog too much about your feelings. It’s one of the reasons I love reading what you write–I’m just a few years younger than you and I find it really comforting to read about how you encounter and overcome things, even the minutiae of daily life. Anything you want to blog about is blog-worthy, because guess what, it’s YOUR blog, and it’s not homework or required reading for anyone who maybe has delicate sensibilities about feelings (ugh, put them away! I mean, seriously…) Anyone who reads your blog has seen you grow tremendously as a person, as we all hope to, and to denigrate that in such a passive-aggressive way doesn’t sit well with me. When you have such a strong and eloquent voice, you could write about the fact that your damn phone book got delivered today and I’d still read it and be all, “You know, Jacki is a smart lady, and I’m rooting for her.”

    Bottom line, you do you, because you do it well, and don’t let some troll make you feel self-conscious.

    1. Thanks for being solidarity-pissed, Alyssa – your encouragement and the fact that you’re reading and enjoying any of this means a lot, and you’re a person and writer I really admire. I was definitely hurt by it, but it wasn’t completely off base, so if nothing else it was good food for thought about how I approach an online presence, you know? Also, I’m reaching a point at work where I feel like I need to be more cautious, which is due to some really good opportunities I want to cultivate, so it feels like a natural time to think twice before sharing every feeling, while still being honest about what I do choose to write! If writing was my career now it would probably be different, but insurance isn’t nearly as feelings-friendly ;)

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